More than a brand name.
Yeah, I blew of Thursday. It was being impertinent. Perhaps I'll kick out a make-up post or something soon.
Wafting through Cosmicbabe's blog today planted a seed of a thought in my mind. I either compost regularly or I'm full of another substance that makes things grow. Ah the consequences of possessing a dirty mind.
Anyway, it occurred to me as I read that I have met and known more than a few people that have all but turned a particular nationality into a fetish. For whatever reason, they had decided that the accent, the language, or the physical features typical of some other country is the hottest thing since they stuffed a blowtorch into their thong.
For the men fixated on foreign women, a secondary element seems to be at play in their attraction in some cases. Perhaps it's just some coincidence of those I have observed, but it seems some guys acquire a serious hard-on for women brought up in societies and cultures which expect a woman to take a second-place role to a man. These men may not be angling to create their own private Gorian romance/marriage, but I still come away from them feeling like they are stacking the deck in their favor. The amount of regard and care these guys have imprinted on as a background societal assumption is usually going to be more than these women expect on a gut level which automatically tips the balance in the guys favor so no matter how much effort he decides to exert, she's always going to be more appreciative of it than he could expect from an American woman.
There is something fundamentally unwholesome about a man who lives in this country who refuses to date anyone but citizens from Eastern Europe or Southeast Asia. If you doubt me, ask them why they don't like American women and listen carefully to what they say. It will almost always boil down to assertions that American women are too demanding, aggressive, picky, or otherwise expecting to be treated as an equal. It doesn't take much further thought to deduce what that indicates about their own personality.
The American women drooling over foreign men seem to have a worse time of it. They focus on the way the accent caresses their ears, attributing an exotic and primal passion to his gaze. They get swept away by his efforts to woo them. His behavior and habits are taken as enticingly alien and that once entered into a deeper romantic connection, he will treat them like some amalgam of the boyfriends they grew up with and romance novel lead.
Then they discover such charming things like they don't believe in safe sex. Or that the concept of putting their own mouth to a woman's genitals or interest in her orgasm is completely outside their concept of rational behavior. These women discover that what they thought was confidence and masculinity is actually a belief that her opinions and desires are trivial compared to his, to be paid heed to only if he feels indulgent. I have heard more than one woman admit shock that her bronzed surfer Adonis would give her the back of his hand when he thought she was overstepping herself. Usually, getting smacked around would be the end of that particular relationship, but just as often they'd enter right back into the same type of relationship with a different guy from the same culture and wonder what kept going wrong.
There's nothing wrong with getting involved with people from other countries, but for the love of latex and leather, consider the heritage and background that has given rise to that person. You may look at the universe through the perspective of a US citizen with all of the integral assumptions and traditions thereof, but it is sure as hell not going to be the perspective of anyone who isn't from the US.
Look before you leap, "foreign" is not a brand name.
Wafting through Cosmicbabe's blog today planted a seed of a thought in my mind. I either compost regularly or I'm full of another substance that makes things grow. Ah the consequences of possessing a dirty mind.
Anyway, it occurred to me as I read that I have met and known more than a few people that have all but turned a particular nationality into a fetish. For whatever reason, they had decided that the accent, the language, or the physical features typical of some other country is the hottest thing since they stuffed a blowtorch into their thong.
For the men fixated on foreign women, a secondary element seems to be at play in their attraction in some cases. Perhaps it's just some coincidence of those I have observed, but it seems some guys acquire a serious hard-on for women brought up in societies and cultures which expect a woman to take a second-place role to a man. These men may not be angling to create their own private Gorian romance/marriage, but I still come away from them feeling like they are stacking the deck in their favor. The amount of regard and care these guys have imprinted on as a background societal assumption is usually going to be more than these women expect on a gut level which automatically tips the balance in the guys favor so no matter how much effort he decides to exert, she's always going to be more appreciative of it than he could expect from an American woman.
There is something fundamentally unwholesome about a man who lives in this country who refuses to date anyone but citizens from Eastern Europe or Southeast Asia. If you doubt me, ask them why they don't like American women and listen carefully to what they say. It will almost always boil down to assertions that American women are too demanding, aggressive, picky, or otherwise expecting to be treated as an equal. It doesn't take much further thought to deduce what that indicates about their own personality.
The American women drooling over foreign men seem to have a worse time of it. They focus on the way the accent caresses their ears, attributing an exotic and primal passion to his gaze. They get swept away by his efforts to woo them. His behavior and habits are taken as enticingly alien and that once entered into a deeper romantic connection, he will treat them like some amalgam of the boyfriends they grew up with and romance novel lead.
Then they discover such charming things like they don't believe in safe sex. Or that the concept of putting their own mouth to a woman's genitals or interest in her orgasm is completely outside their concept of rational behavior. These women discover that what they thought was confidence and masculinity is actually a belief that her opinions and desires are trivial compared to his, to be paid heed to only if he feels indulgent. I have heard more than one woman admit shock that her bronzed surfer Adonis would give her the back of his hand when he thought she was overstepping herself. Usually, getting smacked around would be the end of that particular relationship, but just as often they'd enter right back into the same type of relationship with a different guy from the same culture and wonder what kept going wrong.
There's nothing wrong with getting involved with people from other countries, but for the love of latex and leather, consider the heritage and background that has given rise to that person. You may look at the universe through the perspective of a US citizen with all of the integral assumptions and traditions thereof, but it is sure as hell not going to be the perspective of anyone who isn't from the US.
Look before you leap, "foreign" is not a brand name.
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