Spare the strap, spoil the night.

Had an encounter not that long ago with a woman looking to purchase a strap-on harness set that was all too typical. She thought the more expensive portion should be the dildo and not the actual harness. In a way I can partially understand how it would occur to someone in that way, as it tends to be the bobbing shaft protruding that holds most of the attention. It's perhaps forgivable that someone would spend more time contemplating what to fuck with rather than how it will be utilized.

Unfortunately, the priorities need to be reversed. The foundation is of paramount importance. You could have the best designed silicone cock ever to be molded for fucking, but if you're strapping it to your hips with dental floss and chewing gum, you're not going to be getting the most out of it. At the same time, if you have a well fitted, comfortable harness any dildo that fits it is going to be much more controlled. The closer you can get to making that shaft move with your body, the better the outcome is going to be.

It should seem extremely basic, even when completely wide-eyed and drooling over some new über-rooter model. Instead, people still insist on cutting as many corners as they can get away with. At least the rank amateurs to the field will until the reality of chafing straps, bursting rivets, pinches, and general harness failure curbs their exuberance enough to listen to the informed.

There are few things that will annoy someone as much as declining to spend twenty bucks on a well designed harness in favor of something that looks similar only to have it completely worn out after a handful of uses, if not after the first vigorous tryst. If someone is buying the very cheapest models out there, perhaps they're not going to be too upset, but most times people are sinking enough cash into the toys that it's a serious blow to the wallet.

• Buy the best harness you can afford.
• If you must skimp on something, skimp on the dildo portion. It'll last longer for the money and is cheaper to replace.