Not Safe For Anyone

Fuck "Not Safe For Work". It's a stupid appellation to begin with. It's a label that seems to mostly revolve around pictures of naked people and whatever words some twit found personally arousing, and so placed them into a filter. Fuck that noise in the bloody ear!!!

First of all, if one cannot depend on one's employees to conduct themselves in a responsible and mature manner at work, then you have a fundamental problem. Either your hiring standards are woefully inadequate to maintaining a quality workforce or the job is so unskilled that turnover is rapid and merciless. If Lenny is able to meet and exceed his job requirements on a daily basis, why should I give a bloody fuck if he browses the newest adult film releases? Why the hell should time and resources be devoted to treating him like a teenager?! If he's not meeting his work responsibilities, then perhaps he needs to be removed from his position. If he's choosing to goof off and be a piker, it is not the fault of sexual content, it's his. If his internet viewing is bothersome to coworkers or illegal, again, that's his responsibility as an adult to shoulder. If the workforce experiences a lot of churn, why the hell do they have internet access in the first place? Why is supervision so lax? All the NSFW crap does is provide an arbitrary line to justify a code of behavior that is EXPECTED to not be conformed to. If one does not expect another to behave as an adult, then why should the other do so? They're already suffering the penalty, there's no reason for them not to do the crime they're already paying for.

"Safe" is an illusion. There is nothing on the internet that cannot be used harmfully. Most, since there do happen to be illegal items floating about, can also be used in a non-harmful manner. The ONLY real determining factor is the person accessing it, and let me tell you, if they want to misbehave, there is NOTHING you can do short of killing them to keep them from it.

People waving the NSFW banner are increasingly drawing my ire. Take some fucking responsibility for how and when you access your content and stop foisting off your own lack of judgment on those you're choosing to access.

I talk about sex and sexually oriented materials. I use harsh language. I craft some disturbing mental images from time to time in the course of conveying my thoughts. If someone can appreciate and handle it, splendid. If not, they shouldn't be here. Simple as that.

In that vein, Chelseagirl was recently lambasted by an ex who had been reading her blog and took exception to how she characterized him. It seems she's a bit regretful and sad with how it all turned out.

I take a divergent slant on the issue.

I make efforts to obscure/muddle identities contained within my blog. Are my efforts completely water-tight and bullet-proof? Certainly not. The meat of my experiences are there and with enough deduction, it is possible to suss out the hidden information. It's impossible to do otherwise outside of generating posts of whole-cloth fiction, and that's not what I started this venture to do. If someone has such a bug up their ass that they simply must divine out the details I have omitted or modified, that's their own issue.

I am rarely fair. I take a stab at being objective and being open to dissenting or alternate perspectives, but ultimately my tone conveys my personal bias. When I share a memory, observation, or diatribe, it is rife with my opinion. I make no apologies for it now, nor will I in the future. At the time and place I typed those words, such were my beliefs and feelings. They may change in the time since, but that was me at that point.

If despite the efforts toward anonymity I've afforded someone, they decide they're offended or hurt by what I said about them, I don't give a shit. I am not forcing them to proclaim they are who they think I'm saying they are. I'm not forcing them to set aside that incredibly easy excuse of "he must have been talking about someone else." The only reason to push it is to stir up drama. Suck it up, deal with it, and move on.

As far as I'm concerned, "Ernie" is a self-inflicted injury. If you read the blog of an ex, you run the risk of reading something less than flattering at some point. If you get hurt by it, you have no one to blame but yourself. If friends and colleagues start dropping a name around you that's linked to someone that might be you in a blog, there's absolutely no reason to confirm it or react with something other than confusion. Calling someone years after dropping contact, to bitch them out because they got their tender widdle feewings hurt doing something that a minimum of common sense would suggest might be painful is juvenile and self-pitying.

Read at your own risk.