Leaves a bad taste.
One of the things that always seems to bubble up in a sexual conversation is the so called question of spitting or swallowing. There are a million opinions, thousands of blog posts, and a hundred different perspectives of how to address this issue.
It gets fucking tedious.
It's tiresome to be subjected to voluminous reams of arguments penned by some prim princess who is utterly horrified and repulsed by the idea of a man's erection passing her lips, let alone ejaculating in or about her mouth. If she considers the penis to be inherently dirty and wrong, that's her baggage to lug around. The world is hardly going to applaud her for sharing whatever repressive, shame-based impediments to her full enjoyment of sexual behavior she has taken to heart. OK, you think oral sex is icky. Congratulations. May it bring you happiness and joy. Have a lollipop and shut your bloody cakehole already.
On the other extreme, it is no less boring to be subjected to some overenthusiastic chippy who finds it her life's calling to proselytize the wonder and majesty of siphoning boy juice straight from the tap. Provided this person isn't being bankrolled by some porn publisher to stir up furor that cock-hungry nymphs are truly among us, she needs to take a few deep breaths and settle the fuck down. It's wonderful you've found something so wonderful and fulfilling for you. That doesn't mean you need to run out and attempt to convert your fellow man. Grab that dehydrated looking man with the chapped, abraded schlong and prolapsed testes and be privately gleeful. If you really must share with the world, pump out some erotica. Leave the pulpit at home.
This leaves us a vast area between the two extremes. It's still been over done. Tragically, in many cases the reason is externally imposed. Some half-wit gets it in their enfeebled pate that to inquire as to whether a woman spits or swallows is edgy, sexy, titillating,
Oh ha ha, very witty. No wonder people drink so much at parties. It isn't anything more than trivial and completely misses anything of any personal value.
I know women who absolutely love going down on a man. It's one of their very favorite things to do ever, but they are less favorably disposed to the result of their labors. I know women that would be thrilled to never have a phallus attempt to play tag with their tonsils again, but are incredibly turned on imbibing his ejaculate. I know women who will discretely banish him from their tongue. I know others who ingest out of expedience and practicality. The point being that there are as I said earlier a plethora of reasons for spitting, swallowing, or whatever.
Anyone who is truly consumed with asking this question of a woman is missing a crucial point; this woman could theoretically be allowing his cock into her mouth.
It is never good to assume that any given person is going to allow automatic physical access during sex. Posing the question could be understandably interpreted as assuming she's going to be willing, which may just kill that avenue of fun outright.
Regardless, the focus is totally fucked up. If someone is willing to blow their lover, it's extremely bad form to bitch about what they do with the results. So what if she's racing to the bathroom to hack it all down the sink and chug a couple shots of mouthwash? You just got a bloody blow-job! You were the recipient of the orgasm, not her. It's like getting a free car and bitching about the color. If she doesn't want to swallow it, unless you want it yourself, let her spit it out and just bliss on the fact she cared enough to bring you to orgasm.
Lose the 'tude and the question and learn to appreciate your lover more.
5 Comments:
I once had a very wise mentor tell me, regarding my initial fear of blowjobs, thinking it was "dirty", "If you won't put it in your mouth because you think it's dirty, why would you put it anywhere else?" Changed my whole attitude about the act, quite frankly.
And you're absolutely right, if I'm going to suck you off to orgasm, you don't get to complain when I spit it out.
Great post.
Hmmmm. I just posted about this topic. Wonder which extreme I fall into?
MCWCPE - I'm glad you liked it.
Chris - Neither extreme. It is not a central theme to your posts and normally when mentioned is either pertinent to the story or reflective in terms of your own personal progress/discovery.
classic, i agree on the last bit. i enjoy it and mostly swallow, but if i cant or dont i can find a way to ahem, dispose of the load without running gagging for the bathroom. however, i do end up in the bathroom soon after for a cleanup. It amazes me that at that point it could turn a guy off.
I guess its more to do with the turn on part, that a guy likes to think she will swallow his seed all up. and if he meets a girl who doesnt, then its more hype for next bj he gets?
Joie - Oh there is definitely something to the "if she swallows she really wants me" theory. Unfortunately, I see many people, male and female, focusing solely on that one thing. Personally, I'm more interested in what she's doing that gets me to orgasm.
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