Run Silent, Run Deep

In my peregrinations through the internet, reading the various blogs that have caught my attention, I happened upon a rather heartfelt and pained treatise against "jack-hammering" your lover.

Fair enough. Nothing says that she has to enjoy deep, fast penetration. Many women don't. I would hazard that there is a correlation to their orgasms. In almost every instance I have heard a woman stating that deep penetration is to be avoided they say that it's painful. Likening it to undergoing a pap smear is also common. My theory is that they are probably wired more to the external nerves for sexual pleasure. A large percentage of women do not climax from intercourse, more than half according to some sources. As such, these women would achieve orgasm most readily through oral sex. In my own experience, women I've been with who do not enjoy depth have been those who experience an orgasm centered around the external clitoris and vulva. Their pleasure zones were mostly external to their vaginal vault.

However, that does not mean there are not women who prefer a deep, vigorous dicking. I have experienced more than a couple ladies who had a marked preference to having their cervix bumped. In some cases, they preferred a steady pace with the head of the penis "kissing" the neck of the womb. In at least one, if her internal organs didn't feel thoroughly pummeled, she didn't like the angle. They experienced profound internal contractions and an orgasm that seems to center more around the internal portions of the clitoris. Many even state that their uterus plays a part. Their pleasure zones were more internal of their vaginal vault.

This doesn't mean that a guy could crash around in their nether regions like a proverbial bull in a china shop. A guy has to be aware of the intensity. Some positions allow deeper access than others. A guy throws himself into a thrust that would be spirited while spooning while she's on her knees, shoulders down and it's doubtful she's going to enjoy it. Do it more than once, your sexual interlude is grinding to a halt. Again in my experience, they seem to be a bit more demanding in terms of angle. Orgasms from oral sex are usually pale shadows of the intensity they get through penetration, so they want to make sure that erection is hitting every happy spot as effectively as possible. As in anything to do with sex, skill and awareness are paramount.

As for myself, I have a preference to penetrative sex. Oral sex for me is nice, but for the most part isn't going to go very far. Slipping between her thighs and feeling her envelope my shaft is just bloody fantastic. Being with someone I don't have to completely hold back with allows me to spend more energy enjoying the sex. My body responds best to the friction/sensations of thrusting. I've been with women who preferred to flex and squeeze around my shaft while I remained relatively immobile and it just doesn't do much for me.

Gods bless the women who enjoy slam-fucking.