With more restraint.

So last night, I talked about silk scarves and handcuffs. Tonight, I shall touch upon a few other devices.

Neck ties! Note; this only works for the non-clip-on type. If someone has even one suit, ties can start to accumulate. Rarely will someone raise an eyebrow at a mound of neckties in the same way they would ten pounds of stain-less steel chain. It can take some practice since they are designed to slide a bit, but it is hard to bind the knot down too tight to pick apart. If you have to hack it off your lover, it's not hard to replace unlike finding someone trusting enough to let you tie them down.

Chains. Muy macho. Simply screams hard-core dungeon and torture chambers. It speaks to the lizard brain with bold waves of fight or flight. Use enough and no one short of a huge green guy in shredded khakis is going to break free. However, the links will pinch and dig into flesh and bone. It's very difficult to gauge the safety of the captive using chains. It flirts with permanent damage to the point of a champagne room lap dance.

Ropes are a classic choice. Flexible, varied, and easily obtained. You can give your sexual interlude the tone of a romance novel pirate ravishing or a boy scout gone kinky or a hostage d' amore all the way to being totally gift-wrapped as a Shibari demonstration. There are many many many types of cord and rope out there in the world. Myriad ways to use it in fun ways. Many more to totally fuck it up. If you want to just dabble, go for something soft, with a really thick diameter, and don't tie them down to really baffle a struggle. If you want to get into it further, I recommend looking up some experts in the use of the rope such as Midori, Monk, or Bridgett Harrington to reduce the likelihood of putting your lover in the hospital.